Last year, almost every one of my single friends attracted what appears to be the partner of their dreams. These people are very unique people, most of them are very academically accomplished, some have Master’s qualifications, from places like Yale and there are even some PhD’s in the mix too.

Last year, almost every one of my single friends attracted what appears to be the partner of their dreams. These people are very unique people, most of them are very academically accomplished, some have Master’s qualifications, from places like Yale and there are even some PhD’s in the mix too. They’re all good looking people – they take care of their bodies by eating well and doing exercise of sorts and they generally take pride in how they present themselves. They’ve also all done the personal development work to improve their emotional intelligence so they can work on being the best version of themselves. Thus, they’ve created a life that serves them – one where they love their work, have passions outside of their work to keep them feeling fulfilled and put their energy into situations they enjoy. These people are happy people, awesome people. Is it any wonder they’ve attracted their dream partners with this level of emotional intelligence which is ultimately hot and sexy?
So what is it about emotional intelligence that’s so hot and sexy? As I love to analyse these kind of topics within our human behaviour, I have obviously got a few thoughts of my own.
As a strong independent woman who is used to being the one who is the strength that others lean on, having someone I can lean on once in a while is very desirable. I’m not talking about co-dependent relationships where we’re all validating off each other because we haven’t created our own sense of worth. I’m talking about the ability to hold space for others, and yourself. That means, being able to listen, understand and maybe comfort(if appropriate), while someone releases, shares and talks through a situation, without trying to fix the situation or thinking about your own reaction. This is what it means to hold space for another. This is hot and sexy.
Next up, it’s passion. In order to have passion and use it to follow our dreams, there’s a few other things that need to be set in place too. Firstly, admitting what our dreams are, to ourselves and to others, even if they sound ridiculous at first. Then having the courage to go for them, no matter what boundaries are in the way. Lastly it’s having the self-belief to see it through to the
end. Passionate people light up rooms with their enthusiasm, it’s something that literally radiates out of them. In my eyes this is totally hot and sexy.
Self-Awareness, Reflection and Humility. Oh My. To even write makes me smile!
When someone has the self-awareness to reflect on their actions (unprompted) and then has the humility to rectify something which wasn’t aligned with their personal value system. This is something I find super-attractive. To me, it highlights that this human realises that they are a human. That sometimes they do dumb things (who doesn’t?) and that they have the humility to admit this and have the self-compassion and self-worth to know that their thoughts and actions don’t determine who they are. It means that this person has a strong value system which they are in tune with. They have integrity, compassion, self-worth and self-respect.
These are values that will come naturally when you start to work on your emotional intelligence. They’re the values that make us a more connected and compassionate society. They’re the values that are hot, sexy and will help you find and keep your happiness and keep you moving towards your goals no matter what.

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Written by Shereen Soliman

About the author Shereen has an MSc in Environmental and Energy Studies (specialising in natural materials), a BA (Hons) in Business Studies, is a qualified Beauty Therapist and a has a passion for all things spa and wellbeing related. At 14 she witnessed her Auntie fight breast cancer using only natural remedies, something which was unheard of at the time and directly challenged her family’s beliefs; her parents being a Doctor and Nurse who specialised in cancer. The question of what we put in to our bodies & how this affects us & our environment is something which continued to crop up in Shereen’s life, especially when she found herself working in marketing around companies that regularly mislead customers about what was actually in their products. Having a Masters of Science & the experience of working in marketing, Shereen know’s how to tell the green wash from the reality and is on a mission to share this knowledge with the world while providing accessible natural alternatives. In 2017 she published her first book: The Backpackers Natural Beauty Book, and started running Natural Beauty Workshops. She now runs a variety of educational and pampering workshops under the brand Abanico Spa.